Welcome Back And Why This Matters

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Yo, yo, yo, welcome back to the Feather Your Lifestyle Podcast Conversations on Lifestyle, Passions, and Hustles. My name's Chris. I'm your host, and we're back here again having the conversation with you. Uh, I'm super excited, right? I I love doing these, I love having the conversation. And for all those that tune in, whether it's one person, 10 people, 20 people, 30 people, it means the absolute world to be able to have these conversations. And especially when you when you conversate back. So you can jump down into the comments and continue the conversation. But episode 273 today. And if you didn't catch last week's episode, this is kind of like a roll-on episode. Just to kind of come here and after going through those brutal truths that we discussed last week, maybe maybe you're actually doing okay, right? And help you realize that maybe things aren't as bad as maybe you thought. If that hit you hard, that's probably good. But I'm not here to make you feel scared or confront you and make you feel bad about not being where you think you should be. But I actually want you to come here and listen about that. Maybe we need to stop forgetting to actually recognize what you've already done, what you've achieved, what you've overcame already. So I think it's really important, right? So we did the 15 brutal truths last week. There's probably things that you need to confront, there's probably things that you need to change, there's probably things that we finally need to do something about, right? Yeah, and like that's the reality. But I think the other truth is, you know, maybe you are doing better than you thought. And I want to help you discover that and see that and understand that through, I think it's a five or six-step process here, just asking a few questions and helping you, I guess, frame it in a different way so you can see that perspective. And I think this is a really good pick-me-up episode. So if that sounds like something you're interested in, buckle up, get cozy. Let's roll the intro and let's get into it.

When Progress Becomes Your Normal

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So I think this first one is really good. Like your progress becomes your normal. And this one I love when you zoom out and you look back and think, oh, remember when you wanted what you currently have. The thing that once felt exciting and uncomfortable, and you know, you're working hard for became just another Tuesday. You know, that's adaptation. And that means you've you it means you've you've actually made really good progress, right? What feels ordinary today that five years ago would have felt extraordinary, right? I remember, you know, when we were we were getting, I think it was like five sales a day, and I was like, oh my gosh, this is crazy. Like, how are we gonna do this? Now we average 25 or 30 sales a day, sometimes 40, like, and that's just a new normal, that's just the normal, right? And then you think, oh geez, one day it'll be 100, right? That's that's the reality of it. And be kind to yourself, reflect on those things because you probably have done way better than you expected.

Measure The Gain Not The Gap

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And number two, which kind of follows on, is you end up measuring the gap instead of the gain. So a good way to look at this, I'll read it out, is you wanted, let's say you wanted to get to a 10, but you got a seven. And all you can see is that, geez, I'm not good enough. I'm only a seven, I didn't even get the ten. But you started at one. So you you've gone from one to seven, you didn't get to the ten, but you know, you you do a bit more updates, you you relearn, you readapt, and you can get to that ten. You've only got to go three more to get to the ten. My point is, is like we can create this completely different perspective of how we can measure progress and success. If you started at zero and you land at seven, but you wanted ten, it's like, uh you've you've you've done you've done so well because you're 70% further than you've ever been before. Now, if you get to the next year and you get less, well, then it's like you need to understand what's going on here. But don't be so hard on yourself. It's all about framing and helping you understand that, well, that from an optimistic perspective, you've done really, really well.

Quiet Wins That Don’t Get Trophies

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Some progress will not be obvious. It's not going to leave like some little trophy that you can hang up on a wall. It's going to be the stuff that's kind of like soft skills and quiet skills, such as resilience. You're going to be better at putting boundaries in place. You might be more self-aware, less reactive, you might be more confident, but you might handle anxiety or uncertainty a little bit better, or you're quicker to recover when things go wrong. You're quicker to adapt, you're better at making decisions. There's no certificate for this stuff. That's just you being a better version of yourself. But it's probably some of the most valuable progress you'll make because it doesn't necessarily just correlate to the one thing you're doing. You can pick that up and do that anywhere else and apply it because anything that you do, you're going to need resilience, you're going to need boundaries, you're going to need to know how to react, you need some level of confidence. All of those things are going to stack and help and work as a adjacent kind of situation that you might deal

Stop Comparing Life To A Dream

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with. Number four, a lot of the time, and I do this, is we compare today's reality with an imagination or a dream that we have. And it's an interesting contradiction because, you know, right now we might think life is real, life is messy, life is incomplete. I mean, if you go back, you probably would have wished to be in this position anyway. So your future self, you know, is feeling that it's got something that you've imagined, that it's polished and it's frictionless. But of course, that reality loses that comparison as we get closer to it. You just need to be easier on yourself because you're there's two ways that I would look at this is you want to have a level of this that inspires and motivates you to get to because you know, well, one day we are going to have it better and it is going to be better, and that's what we're working towards. But at the same time, it's like you've painted this picture of what you see as the perfect scenario, and then when you're not reaching that, you're disappointed with yourself. So sometimes it's not going to be as simple as like you're going to get there instantly. So therefore, you can't expect those instant results to be the same because you're comparing yourself to something that you are not yet that you are aspiring to be like. Now, I I'm very hard with this because I don't like to get complacent. I like to keep myself honest and make sure, okay, yep, we take the win, we move on, we start move working towards the next thing. That's just the momentum I like. Doesn't work for everyone, but I think there's some really valid points here.

Be Proud And Still Want More

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Number five, you're allowed to be proud and hungry. This is kind of the same thing that we just we just said, right? You can be grateful and still want more as well. It's it's really good. Like you need to recognize your progress. I think, I mean, for me, it's hard to you know say, well, that's enough, I'm stopping. It's a fuel to be able to take you to that next level, to take you to that next level ambition. But you do need to, again, balance this because it can be all-consuming. But I think you're allowed to be proud of what you have achieved, and even if you achieved your best results ever and say, now let's get after it and do it again. Some people don't like that because they get jealous because they haven't achieved the results they wanted. And here you are achieving results and now going on to the next level. Well, that's that's your journey. They've got things they've got to fix, you know. And sometimes you'll have back-to-back wins, and sometimes you'll have back-to-back losses. So you've got to keep that moment, you know, when when you're riding the highs, ride the highs. When things are down, you've got to figure out how to manage those downs to get you back up to the highs.

Ask Your Old Self What Changed

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Number six, ask your old self. And I think this is like a really good central exercise for anyone to do. Forget your peers, forget social media, forget all that crap, forget where you think you should be. But imagine yourself five years ago, right? Show that person your life today, right? You know, five years ago for me, you know, I just finished up working at a consulting firm and I was starting this journey. I had no idea, I had ideas of what I wanted to achieve and what I could see possible, and I didn't hit those goals. But now we are hitting those goals. And this is the moment where you can reflect and then basically what would you tell yourself back then to stop taking for granted? You know, it's a powerful conversation because if you're able to talk to that person back then and say, hey, it's gonna be okay, it's the same sense of reality of, you know, what would you say to yourself now, five years from now, as well? Because of where I want to be, I'll be like, mate, you just keep at it. You've got this, right? Because that's exactly how I felt five years ago prior when things didn't feel like it was possible. You know, we were in the middle of a pandemic almost, and things were tough, but there's always gonna be tough and there's always gonna be easy. It it it's just the ebbs and flows of life. So, like I said, you can flip that, you can then you know do it from what does it look like in five years, and how would you, you know, want to envision yourself and what would they be saying to yourself. So I think it's really important exercise. You you don't have to have everything figured out, right? I mean, I'm not here to say this is the exact blueprint to get everything that you want. It's it's gonna give you some bits and bobs to be able to start to figure things out. And the reality is, is like you don't have to have everything figured out now because you're not finished. There's plenty more to do, there's plenty more to learn. Don't become obsessed with becoming the next version of yourself that you disrespect everything it took you to become this version of yourself. I think it's important to look back, I think it's important to take the wins and then keep going. You know? The last line, I guess, that I would leave you with in this entire episode is don't become so obsessed with who you're becoming that you disrespect who you've already become. And that's why I left that point around, you know, don't let it consume you. Keep yourself honest, respect the wins, what you've done, be proud about that, and move on to the next thing. But don't let it become the consumption of everything that you are, because that is what will unfortunately it will drown you from becoming a better version of yourself because you will lose the the line of what is right and what is best for you, and you will end up chasing other things, materialistic

Key Line And Your Next Step

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things. I'll leave it there that we we could get quite philosophical for that one. Let me know how you went with this. You know, what are the things that stood out to you? What are the things that you know was relatable? Anything here, you know, hit you in a little slap or anything that you think is really good. Let's continue the conversation. Jump down with the comments down below. Let's let's let's have the chat. Let me know. And if you enjoyed this, please like, subscribe, comment. We'll be back here again next week doing it all again. And I'll see you when I'm looking at you. Ciao