Welcome And The Action Gap

Yo yo yo, welcome back to the Feather Your Lifestyle Podcast Conversations on Lifestyle, Passions, and Hustles. My name's Chris. I am your host, and I'm super excited to be back here having the conversation with you. Episode 259 today, and we're continuing on from last week's episode where we're talking about let's make a decision, let's make it happen. And now I want to talk about now that you've decided, now that you've made a decision, maybe you're dealing with this feeling of why aren't I moving? Why aren't why isn't the progress happening? And look, to help set the scene here, I think, I think we need to be honest for a second. Sometimes, you know, it's you make a decision, it feels clear, you know, you feel locked in, or you know, you know what you wanted to do, and then you do it and nothing's happening. And maybe you've you've kind of gone stagnant again. So you're probably asking, why am I moving? Or Chris, I'm stuck, I don't know what to do next, what do I do? Well, that this episode is for that, right? This episode is about kind of like I guess exposing the gap between the clarity and the action. Because deciding, I mean, when we make a decision, it feels like progress, right? It feels great, but it's actually just the starting line. And now you actually have to go do all the work. So that's what I want to talk to you about today. It's gonna be a quick episode, but maybe if you're feeling this, this is probably relevant for you. Yeah, if you enjoy these episodes, make sure you do hit the subscribe. You can also comment, continue the conversation. Uh if you think someone else needs to hear this, please share it with them. Let's dive straight in, folks. Let's do it. So, look, there's there's a number of ways maybe why you're not moving. So listen through this and you can kind of pick and choose what's relevant to you. Maybe, maybe none of it is, but let's let's try it anyway. You've made a decision, so you're gonna feel like you've got an emotional win, but you haven't done any work, right? And when you decide something, you know, you you get a hit of clarity, you get a hit of relief, you get a hit of motivation, but and and it does, it feels sweet. We've made progress, it's been a productive day, we're moving forward. But maybe you hadn't really thought about, well, what happens next, right? And you haven't actually done anything. And sometimes we can confuse ourselves with mental progress and real progress. But this is good. If you've made a decision, like a big, big pat on the back, the brain celebrates this decision, but your body still has to go do the work. So do appreciate the small wins, but we got to think about okay, so what are the next steps that we need to be doing? Now, the other reason why sometimes we get stuck here is you've made the decision, now you're waiting for that same feeling again. You know, you've you've felt motivated, you've felt inspired, you felt, I don't know, maybe this joy. And now that you've made that decision, those things have gone, and you're like, okay, now what? Because if that feeling isn't coming back, you realize, oh, I don't know if I want to do this because now it's scary, you're in the unknown, you're no longer motivated, you're no longer excited and inspired. And the reality is you don't need to feel like that again to go do the work. This is where you need to roll up the sleeves, pull up your big boy pants, and just move forward and actually start doing it. And we we we get back into this loop of creating all these excuses for ourselves, you know. Maybe it's oh, I don't want to be bad at this, you know, I made the decision, bad to execute, but oh, what what if it what if it doesn't work out the same way? So you overthink, you hesitate, you delay. We're getting back to the point where you're not even making a decision again, you're not making a decision to actually execute. You need to execute, you need to take action. And it might mean you suck at it, it might mean that you fail, it might mean that you trip, it might mean that you don't get the first result. But it's easier to stay someone who plans to do it than someone who tries and struggles and actually makes success from it. If I had given up all the times things have been tough, if I had given up all the times people said I suck, or if people say this is not viable, geez, I would be so disappointed now. And there's been times where you've challenged it all, but you know, at the same time, you come out stronger, you figure out solutions. If you if if this is this only works if you're working towards the thing that you want, right? If you're doing something for someone else and it's not really your baby, it's not really your dream, it's gonna be very hard to be able to be resilient through these times. But if you want it, then you're gonna have to deal with this toughness as well. The other reason maybe why you're feeling like you can't start is maybe you're trying to start too big. You know, you're trying to jump in full routine, or you're going all in, or you're trying to do everything at once. I feel like I need to sneeze. Excuse me. And the problem with trying to do everything at once is it creates friction. And friction, it will kill action. So you need to, you have need, you know. I mean, the best there's that saying, the best way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time. Big plans don't fail because they're wrong, they fail because they're too heavy to start, they're too hard to start, there's too much going on. And I think we we do this way too often. I know I have. So the last point to this before I get into some other ways of how you can actually start moving is maybe you actually haven't defined your first move. Most people say, I want to get fitter, or I want to start this, or I want to change this, or I want to do that. But what do you actually what's the one thing that you can do today that's gonna get you closer towards it? There's no clarity, therefore there's no action. So these are the reasons why you're probably feeling this way. So how do we actually move? I've got uh, I think it's four, four points here that I took some notes on that I want to kind of work you through. And number one is you want to kill the gap between deciding and doing. So if you decide something, you need to act on it within 24 hours, even if it's tiny, right? And that's why I say what's one thing that you can do today that's gonna get you closer. Is it sending a message? Is it sending a text message? Is it you know following up on lead? Is it writing one line? Is it taking one step? Speed beats perfection, right? A lot of the time, people that are successful in the world or e-commerce even, it's not about necessarily having the best product first, it's about having the product first because people want something, they need something, so they jump on it. Now then you have to iterate it, make it better. Now, if you don't keep doing that, then someone else comes in and makes it better and you know supersedes you anyway. But usually getting it, excuse me, getting it to market is going to win over just trying to make the perfect product for market. Maybe make the first move embarrassingly small. And what I mean by this is do it for five minutes, do one action, do one rep. If you're scared of hitting the gym, go do one push-up. Then you'll think, oh, that wasn't too bad. You'll do two. The point is remove the friction, make it easy. Momentum starts small, not strong. All right. Momentum is like this. Rotations. Look, see, it you it gets easier to do it. Right? So if you do one push-up, you'll realize, huh, maybe I can do another. Huh, maybe I can do another. And then you can build a routine from that. Detach yourself from the outcome. You're stuck because you care way too much about doing it right, if it's working, how it looks, what others think about it. Instead, focus on doing it. Sorry. Instead, focus on doing it. Like, just just just do it, right? Don't focus on are you doing it right? Don't focus on is it working? Don't focus on how it looks. Just focus on actually making the progress, actually getting out there and giving it a go. Now, if you're doing the gym, there are certain things that you are going to need to make sure that you are lifting right so you build the right form. But take your time. There's no rush with this stuff, right? You need to be just be self-aware of it, be self-caring. Give you the give yourself the permission to just give this stuff a go in your own pace, but don't do excuses like, oh no, I'm not ready for this, or I'm feeling it today, or all this stuff. Just slow momentum. That's all it takes. And then the the fourth point is this build identity, not effort. So you're not trying to start, you are someone who does what they say. And I think this is the difference is I I had someone reach out to me the other week and they said they want to do business with me because I'm consistent. And when you're consistent, you get results. And if you get results, you get usually what you want. Well, the results can obviously lead either way, but okay, if you don't get the results you want, you consistently get back to the routine, you iterate, you modify, you pivot, you adjust, do it again, you get some results, they're a bit better. And this is like what we've been doing with eBay Live. When we first started our first show, we did 60 bucks. Now we're averaging about$600 a show. We're doing about$1,000 a week, right? And that isn't within six, seven weeks of just starting. Momentum builds as you build, you learn, you get experience, you get reps, you get knowledge, you get understanding, you get feedback, and you're able to build on top of that and stack. So, a couple of things for you. Questions. What decision have you already made, but you haven't acted up? Let me know in the comments. What's the actual first move and not the idea of it? And number three is what are you waiting to feel before you start? So there's some questions that you can take away today, and you know, you can do what you will with them. You can either continue the conversation down in the comments or take action with them. I'm gonna finish with this. You don't need another breakthrough. No, you don't. You don't need another breakthrough. You don't need another plan, you don't need more clarity. You've already decided, you know what you want. Now it's time to actually start to make the moves and the actions and steps towards that. Because the truth is, decisions will feel good, but actions will actually change your life. And that's how you further your lifestyle. Appreciate you being here. If you did have any questions or comments or want to continue the conversation, jump down below. More than happy to do so. Otherwise, we'll be back here again next week doing it all again. Appreciate you. You have a wonderful day. Cheers.