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Yo, yo, yo, welcome back to the Further Your Lifestyle Podcast Conversations on Lifestyle Passions and Hustles. My name's Chris. I am your host, and I'm super excited to be back here having the conversation with you. Episode 255 today, and we're talking about, you know, how perspective and everything is all relative to the world that you live in. And this is a really important conversation, especially after last week's one talking about growth. And I think there's there's a lot of things here which kind of then naturally just flow across, probably from the last three or four episodes, to be honest. But we're going to dive straight into it. So do buckle up. But a bit of an intro in context of what I want to talk about today is so much of what we think about in life, you know, whether it's success, whether it's stress, whether it's failure, progress, all the things relevant to, I guess, you know, furthering your lifestyle, it's it's all shaped by this world that we live in, you know. And it's not just the whole world, it's your world or our world, the world that we see and experience and understand. So our expectations, our experiences, our comparisons. And when you realize that, it changes everything because we only know what we know, and that's why I think a lot of people get stuck because we think that the world revolves around us, and we're not willing to kind of grow outside of that. But let me let me put it this way: have you ever noticed how you can have two people look at exactly the same situation, yet they see completely different things. One person might see an opportunity, one person might see a risk, one person feels proud, the other one feels like they're behind. The difference isn't the situation, the difference is actually the perspective of the world they're living in. And we're gonna go through a whole bunch of areas of conversation today. I think it's looking at my notes. Yeah, we've got five points that I'm gonna go through today. Stuff that I've experienced and things of my own perspective, but like I think it might help you just think, huh, I never thought of it from this way. To hopefully give you that perspective that, you know, don't be so hard on yourself, but also having this curiosity and understanding might open some more doors for you. So we're gonna roll the intro and we're gonna get into it. And then yeah, if you do enjoy these episodes, make sure you do like, subscribe, comment, etc. But most of all, if you think someone else can benefit from this, please share the episode with someone. And yeah, that would that would mean the absolute world to me. Let's roll the intro. So the first thing is your normal or my normal or someone's normal is built from their experiences. So what you define as normal is based off what you have shaped through your upbringing, through your environment of upbringing, and how you, you know, live your life, your failures, your successes, your the people you surround yourself with. For instance, a really good example of this is running five kilometers is a huge achievement for one person, whereas for another, it may just be a warm-up. Both valid, but both exist in different worlds of experience. I remember when I first started running, I've always been a big fella, and I think I ran a yeah, it was like I did a I did a I don't know if it was my first marathon, I did a four-hour and 45-minute marathon. 42k. Like it was it was tough stuff. And for me, I've never done that before. And I remember an elite runner, you know, like someone that, you know, he's running like ridiculous, like two and a half hour marathon. He commented on my YouTube and he's like, he's like, oh, you're not really running, you know, unless you're you know doing it at this pace, it's you know, you're not really doing it justice for what we call running, basically call me fat. And I was just, I couldn't believe it that someone at that level could have the audacity to kind of bring me down. Now, the only thing I can think of is they're one of these individuals which, you know, they haven't had to go through a crazy journey. Maybe they've been a natural runner, and to them it comes easy. Now, again, I can't judge that, but the perspective of that is like they're living in a whole different world to how I'm living. To me, I feel like I've conquered the world, done it, I've done my first marathon, I've smashed it, I've done a result that I've never dreamed that I could do. Yet then someone else thinks that's not good enough because their definition of normal is higher. Stuff those people. Yeah, sure. It doesn't mean you also get complacent with that either. So I think you you do need to be mindful of that. Just because you're doing worse than someone else doesn't mean you're doing bad. It just means you're not up to their standard. But your standard may be, you know, C because they're A grade. Now, that doesn't mean you should just commit and accept that you're C grade. So please hear me out with that because we're all at a different part of our journey. I've spoken about this for the last couple of weeks. Where you are at is where you are at based on where you what you've done to get to this point. If you want to get to grade A, you're gonna have to do grade B things and then grade A things. That's that's simple. But it's hard, it's hard work. Like, that's the reality of it. So, why do we struggle with comparison? And I find it funny that someone that's ahead can still be the one to be, you know, comparing to someone else behind them. I think it's one of the biggest traps that we fall into, and that is yeah, comparing to other people in this world. But unfortunately, we're comparing the results with our reality. And like I said, it's people that are either ahead or behind are doing this. And it's very frustrating. I think we forget that you know everyone is living a different opportunity in their world, in their life. They have different lessons, they have different timelines, they have different experiences, and unfortunately, comparison ignores context, and context is everything. Now, there is a level of, again, using that to your advantage of if we're able to say, oh no, someone's able to do that because they had a better opportunity, that's you know, you don't justify it on the basis that, oh well, it's not relevant to me because they've got a better opportunity. But you do need to think about it in the sense that maybe you can find an opportunity for yourself that gives you that unfair advantage. We've done an episode on this before called The Unfair Advantage, and it's a great book as well. I would encourage you to listen, listen or read it, where we're all born with an unfair advantage, or we all have access to an unfair advantage. Something that is put sets you aside as an outline compared to someone else. You know, maybe it is. Maybe you were born into money, or maybe you lived in a country where you were able to speak three languages because you grew up and that was that was just the way it was. So naturally, to you, learning three languages, now you're an adult, most people only know one or two languages. You know three languages, people are gonna think, wow, how did you do that? To you, that's just been a normal, simple process because you've grown up that way. Whereas to now go do it as an adult would be very, very hard and very time committing because you've been passively doing it for your entire life. So you got to understand different lessons, different timelines, different experiences, different opportunities. So you really can't compare to anyone else unless they've done exactly the same process, unless they entered the same school, unless they were born the same year, unless they were grew up in the same household, unless they experienced the same, you know, lessons from different environments, unless they were surrounded themselves with the same, you know, friends and family. It's good to have peers, it's good to have bouncing walls and things to kind of set baselines and give you ideas and challenge you, but the comparison component, no no no, you gotta step away from that. That's hard, I get it. There's a lot of vanity in all of this, but why do we struggle with it? It's because we're looking at results versus our reality. And usually our reality does not match someone else's reality. So this is where it gets interesting. Point number three is the danger of forgetting your own perspective. I think a lot of the time, and I do this, we forget how far we've come. How far have you come? What have you done today? Where have you come from? What have you achieved? What have you been able to do? And a lot of people want to see tangible things that you've done to then weigh you up in terms of like, oh yeah, this person's gonna be good. And that's unfortunate. But, you know, I mean, I document everything, I I share my journey, therefore, I'm open to more exposure of other people nitpicking. But if I hadn't been documenting any of this and I was just a silent person and I just come out of nowhere and shared what I was doing, people want to know how did I do this, you know, where did I come from? How did I make this happen? People are curious because they think that it becomes something that I've just done overnight. I've been building this journey long before I started building this journey, right? I've been doing my business for six years, started six years this year. And before that, I was working for a corporate professional services company for almost 10 years, in which I learnt all my skills around project development, leadership, working with customers, client management, stakeholder management, communication, managing deliverables, risks, issues, managing finances, all these different things. All of that has led me to then have the ability to be able to go do what I do and maybe make it look easier for other people. I guarantee you it is not very easy. It is very, very, very, very hard. But we adapt to new levels so quickly that once felt impossible because and it becomes normal. Let me say that again. As we grow, we adapt to new levels so quickly that once felt impossible, it becomes normal. That is the power of growth. Just because you can't do it today doesn't mean you can't do it later. The problems that I had two years ago are small little things that are so irrelevant to the problems that I have now because we've moved up into the world. We've we've changed our perspective, we've we've changed our priorities, we've changed our growth. And think about things that used to feel huge. Speaking or public speaking at school, starting something new, um, committing to a project, improving your health, going on a running journey, making a difficult decision. Some of those still might be hard in parts of your life, but some of them might be really, really easy as well. And that is just part of your life. That's the reality as you grow. And the thing is, some of these things here will just be things that you don't even think about anymore, whereas others there's still challenges that you have to deal with. And that's part of growth. That is growth happening passively. So before we finish, why is perspective on all of this really, really powerful? We've got four on we've got point four and point five here, but I think when you shift perspective, you can change how you see things instantly. Instead of asking why isn't this enough, ask what would the old version of me think about this moment? This is stuff I've had to really, really do really, really deeply to make sure that I keep myself rooted, grounded, and understood to where I am in my journey. I get frustrated when I don't see the results that I'm working so hard to see. However, if I zoom out, you know, had I imagined that we would be doing a, you know, have done a million dollars in our business five years ago, I mean, sure, I would have thought about it, but I had not really tapped into what that looks like. You know, we do$450,000 in revenue per year. It is revenue, but that's an ecosystem of people and and you know, a whole systemized process in doing that. And, you know, we've created something beautiful to think that, you know, the first year I did this, we did like$56 uh,000, and we've almost 10x that in five years. When you zoom out, you start to realize that perspective is very powerful. And, you know, what would my my previous self think of this? They'd think, wow, that's amazing. I want to be doing that. So where will I be from five years from now? I'll be further along the journey, I'll be ahead, I'll be in bigger and greater places. But I can't know that until I'm there, and I have to do the work to get there. So the final point is everyone is fighting their battles. Everyone has their crap, everyone has their issues, everyone has the the heavy weights in their life, be it personal, be it be, you know, with family, be it financial, be it with just this, just just stuff. Like there's a lot going on in this world, right? And then we have to deal with our microenvironments of our home, our personal stuff. And then you've got all the pressures of things happening in the world out of our control. But what seems small to you might actually be massive to someone else. Do not take for granted what you are doing and can do and have done. What seems easy to someone else will probably be incredibly difficult for you as well. And that's okay. That's part of the journey because everyone is navigating their own world. Just because people share something online doesn't mean they have all their stuff together. Sure, they're sharing a highlight reel, it makes them feel good. No one has the perfect life. No one has the perfect world, no one has it all figured out, no one has it all good. Even Elon Musk, the richest man in the world, how many divorces has he gone through? How many challenges has he dealt with? It's not perfect. It's not all sunshine and rainbows, but just someone else's perspective of who doesn't have any money, or you know, they were like, I'll be happy to have that much money and have that many divorces. But the reality is it's like, it's not that simple, right? It's all about perspective. And sure, you can look at that as a positive and think, oh, you know, you do you deserve that because they don't appreciate it the same way you would, and things like that. But that that's not how it works. If you think that's the way it should be, then go after what it is that you want and go make it happen and show that you can do all these things. Anyway, I digress. Reflections that I wanted to kind of like, or I guess questions more so that I want to leave you with before we finish up is what in your life feels normal right now that once felt impossible? You should jot that down. Let yourself know. Really good reflection exercise. What might you be judging yourself unfairly on recently? I I I'm really a bad sucker at this one. I'm pretty hard on myself with the business and you know the progress we're making, where I'm not happy with where we're at, but we're 2% better than last yeah. I mean, that's that's good. We're we're we've already grown, but I'm just not happy with that result. So sometimes you need to be just be a bit more kinder to yourself. And then the third one is what would you change if you viewed your progress through a wider lens? And I actually did a video, it's probably about four weeks ago now, maybe five weeks. It was one on my get wide podcast. And I I spoke about a message to myself from my future self and what they would be thinking if I had achieved the results that I'm planning to achieve. And by looking at it from that wider lens, you give yourself so much more I guess permission to just go after it, and you give yourself a boost to know that you know, if you knew what you knew in five years' time, what you're doing today is a breeze. Even though it feels like the end of the world or the biggest challenge that you're dealing with. And I think that's the the power, the power of perspective. So the truth is, life isn't measured at one universal scale, right? It's measured against the journey you've personally walked and walking. When you zoom out, you might realize you're actually doing better than you think. And that's what I want to leave you with. If you want to continue the conversation around this, if you want to leave a comment or have a question, chuck it down below in the comments here on the YouTube. Otherwise, I would ask you to like, subscribe if you enjoyed these conversations. But if you think someone else needs to hear this, please share it with someone else. That would mean the absolute world to me. And we'll be back here again next week, doing it all again. And I'll see you when I'm looking at you. Ciao.