Welcome And Topic Tease

Yo, yo, yo, welcome back to the Fither Your Lifestyle Podcast Conversations on Lifestyle, Passions, and Hustles. My name's Chris. I am your host, and I'm super excited to be back here having the conversation with you. Episode 249 today, and we're talking about something which I think we all probably experience, but maybe we don't necessarily always realize it. And I feel like it's something that maybe if we do hear it from a different perspective, maybe we'll realize, huh, this makes so much more sense. And it's really talking about how we kind of sometimes live life or we have our lives being run by outdated versions of ourselves. And I guess the way we could look at this is have you ever caught yourself reacting in a way that makes kind of no sense or like not you're not even the one that's kind of like making that decision? It's kind of like it's just a natural reaction. And it maybe it's because you're stuck in some old ways or things from a prior version of yourself. And what I mean by that is just through our upbringings, you know, through our own insecurities and things like that. And I think it's really important to address and hit the nail on the head with this stuff because it may actually enable you to just set yourself free and actually, you know, move on to where you want to be moving on to. So if you do enjoy these episodes, do make sure you hit like, subscribe. You can continue the conversation down below in the comments if you're here on the YouTube. And also, if you think someone else could use this episode as a nice little, you know, nudge, then send it to her. Let them know that this is something for them and that you're thinking of them. That would be really great and help grow the podcast as well. So we're gonna roll the intro and we're gonna get straight, straight into it. So what what do I actually mean by someone else's running the show? Or maybe it's not exactly what we, you know, it's not exactly us doing all the work. Well, it is you. It's a it's a prior version of you. And what does this really, really mean? Well, you know, you're not just one version of yourself. Over a period of time, we've evolved in general, like we've become a whether it's a better version of ourselves, we've picked up habits, we've been influenced, we've been encouraged, we've kind of molded ourselves into this version or multiple versions of ourselves. And unless we kind of address these things and update ourselves, you know, our old self will continue to dictate those actions because maybe that's the way you've always done it, or someone else has told you to always do it. So you've never really changed your ways of doing things. Think of it this way: some examples of this could be people pleasing out of childhood fear. You know, we we don't want to annoy those people because if we do that, you know, it's gonna make our life miserable. But that might have been passed down from someone else's perception of those people. We avoid risk because we're scared of failure. Or maybe we we're still chasing goals that we no longer even want because our priorities have changed. And sometimes what it means is there's a 16-year-old version of yourself that's living inside of you, still terrified of disappointing people, and there's still a 25-year-old, me still obsessed with trying to prove yourself, you know, kind of thing. So you really got to start asking yourself who is calling the shots. And that's that's the whole premise of this. And I guess maybe if we zoom out and try and find some of the like the signs of, you know, maybe this is happening to you. Well, one, it could be you might be feeling stuck, you might be feeling unsure of things, and you're not sure why, right? Of why you're feeling stuck. This could be a good reason for it. Maybe you're defending beliefs or habits that no longer really even attain to your or retain to your values. You know, you're you're talking about things which you've always spoken about, but then you start to think about, well, hang on, is this even what I believe? And that's because it's something that's from a childhood or you've been stuck on it for so long that it's just natural for you to be that way. But when you start to break it down, you realize, well, hang on, what do you believe? Continuing goals that don't excite you. Sometimes we get so stuck on things and we start doing them for the wrong reasons. Now, if you've got goals and ambitions, yeah, go for them. But if your values and focus and priorities change, it's okay to change. It's okay. Sometimes we also get stuck in repeating emotional reactions that feel, I guess, familiar, but they're very, very unhelpful. You know, it's we we tend to get comfortable when we're feeling uncomfortable. So we do things to make ourselves comfortable to avoid the discomfort. So you need to ask yourself: is there a version of you making a decision today that actually qualified to that is actually qualified to run your life? Meaning, like, should this be dictating what you're about to do simply because it's an old version of yourself or something from the past that's trying to push you into that direction. Now, sometimes, as I said, that could be fear, it could be insecurities, it could be just because that's what was told to you when you were a kid, all these different things. It's very relevant to all of us, and I don't think we realize it. Now, I'm obviously no someone here that can help you dig through that, but it's stuff that I've realized myself, and having that self-awareness enables you to kind of like, you know, go get some help with it, work through it and figure it out. So, why do we keep our outdated selves around? Well, one, familiarity, you know, we like to feel familiar. It feels safe. Even when it no longer serves us, we like that comfort. We like to be in our comfort zones, and by having something that's familiar to us, it it's kind of like a safeguard. It's a safe rail. And identity is sticky. So letting go of an old version of yourself feels like we're giving up on a component of us, or it feels like grief, or it feels like betrayal. And that that's it's like stripping away something that's no longer needed. But sometimes we have to go through a hard inner self-journey to really break through what that looks like. And we don't always realize we've changed, but our systems haven't updated. You know, sometimes, you know, you might be stuck doing things because you've always done it that way. But you know, if you're a full-grown adult, it might not make sense to do that anymore. It might make more sense to be focusing your time and effort here. Now, I'm not here to tell you how to run your life, but what I'm trying to say is there's things that we do that we don't actually realize has just been embedded because we've always done it that way. And just because you've done it that way doesn't mean it's the right way. It's just been working for you. But there's probably better ways of doing things. Especially for, you know, where you are in your life. So, how do we go about breaking free of these? This is tough. Like, you know, you've got one, you have to even come to terms with it. You even you need to identify, you need to actually name that, okay, this is happening, and why am I doing it? And why has it occurred in the first place? So if you can address that, you know, is it because you're trying to protect something, or is it because you believe this or thought you believed that? When you understand what the thing is that's causing, you know, you to do that, that's when we can really start to break through, right? We want to acknowledge their role. You know, they got you this and they served a purpose, but you know, that no longer exists for you and is no longer going to help you get to where you want to be. And that's when you can start to update a new version of yourself. You know, what would you choose today? What would you like to choose today? What do you want? What do you want to believe? And, you know, you some the the best way to maybe do this for some of it, not everyone, is to make a journal about it, write it down and say goodbye to those old ways. This is a really short and sharp episode. And I think it's really important because a lot of now is you need to go spend some time and just actually reflect on this. You know, you could do some journaling and you could, you know, figure out what version of you know yourself today is making the most of your decisions lately. And is it stuff that you're proud of? Is it is it a version of you that you're happy with, or is it an old version of you being scared because you don't want to take the jump? And is there a version of yourself that you need to thank and retire, right? You know, maybe it got you to where you are, but now you're on to a new season. When I worked full-time working for you know a corporate group, it was a I love that. I thought I wanted to take that to, you know, my whole career, but I realized that's that's not actually going to get me to what I want. And I had to say goodbye to it, right? And it was a version of me that I had to say goodbye to. And it meant not doing certain things anymore. So you can sit there, you can ask yourself, who am I becoming? And are you happy with how you're becoming or who you're becoming? But also if you're not, you know, if it's not really working out the way you expect, well, what needs to be changed to get there? You get to control that, you get to dictate that. So, you know, if this is not getting you closer to where you want to be, why are you doing it? Right? It's a simple question. It it really is a simple question. So maybe the next big thing that you're trying to do isn't becoming something new or someone new, it's stopping someone old or something old of your ways from actually dictating you where you're going. That can be a hard that's a big mouthful to follow to swallow. But the point is, is like when we actually look at it from that different perspective, you might actually realize that to get that next step change, it's doing something simple that's there that you just hadn't really, you know, put attention to, or you've been ignoring it. Look, I I'll be the first to say I've done this before, but I wanted to share that with you. I wanted you to take the moment to think about it and really just spend some time to reflect on it because when we actually break through and break away from these things that are holding us back, you can move forward with confidence, with less stress, and actually go out there and actually start ticking off the things that you want to be ticking off. You might have to do this numerous numerous times, a number of times as you journey through your journey. But that's the beauty of it. We we we stop, we reflect, figure out what's working, what's not working, what has been working, what hasn't been working, why are we stuck here, why why aren't we moving? And then we can release those things and move forward. That's it from me today. Nice, quick, and easy, simple, just 10 minutes right here, right now, to make your life a little bit better and help you further your lifestyle. Really appreciate you being here. If you did want to continue the conversation, you can chuck a comment down below. Otherwise, we'll be back here again next week doing it all again. And I'll see you when I'm looking at you. Ciao