Yo yo, welcome back to the Further your Lifestyle podcast conversations on lifestyle passions and hustles. My name's Chris, I'm your host and I'm super excited to be back here having the conversation with you. Episode 231 today, excuse me, and we're talking about 10 lessons from someone who's turned 60. Now I like to scour the internet and, just you know, get some insights, learn from other people, read just random things, because it opens my mind to new perspectives, and I did stumble across this one, which is 10 life lessons for someone who's turned 60 and, you know, basically sharing back everything that they've learned. Now, of course, this is their own opinion. Of course this is their own perspective and also, of course, that doesn't necessarily mean it's the right way. It's just what they've learned. But I think it's really important because I'm only 34. But the point is is like it's really good to get it from someone else's perspective that has been around for a lot longer than you have Now. Maybe you're listening to this and you are 60. So maybe there's going to be a great little way to compare and get some ideas around. Oh, I never looked at it that way. I was like, oh yes, this makes so much sense because you have more wisdom than us. Right? You're ahead of the game. You've been around the block a lot longer than I have, and I think it's really important. And for me to be able to get that insight 30 years ahead of me, I think, hey, I've got nothing to lose listening to this and understanding this, and the same goes to you. So buckle up. We're going to get through these 10 points. We'll probably have a little bit of a chit chat through them, but if you below, and also if you do enjoy these episodes, please make sure you do subscribe, make sure you do hit the like button, but, most of all, if you think someone else can further their lifestyle by listening to this, then share it with them. That would be the absolute. So, uh, each one of these can be its own kind of like little, I guess mini segment, but we're really just going to jump into it, see what it means, maybe have a bit of chit chat and go from there. Might be really short and sweet, but that's the point we want, want to take it, we want to chew on it, we want to see how it resonates with us.

Number one you can never regret the walk, and the point here is it's like when we tie in, how motion and nature comes together. It creates clarity. And this person is talking about how they like to go on a regular walk, whether it's daily or on a regular basis, and what they've found is, when they do that, it helps clear their mind, it helps create a space for them to get some of their best ideas. And the question we should ask ourselves is what are we doing? What are we doing when our best ideas come to us? And you want to do more of that? For me, it's been running over the years. It's always been running, but it's different for everyone. So, never regret taking the walk or never regret taking the time to do the thing that gets you a headspace reset is essentially what they're talking about.

Number two simple wins always Seems straightforward. Overcomplication can look smart, but it ruins execution in business, health and relationships. Now, overcomplication can look smart, but it ruins execution in business, health and relationships. Now, I think this is really important because in a world of such fast-paced societies, we do try and come up with all these things. That's going to be amazing when really, the ones that we see that are succeeding and I say this cliche-wise people come up with some very simple things. You think, gee, I could have thought of that. Why didn't I think of it? And it's because there's so much going on that our attention is pulled across so many different things, so it's very hard to get focused into the nitty gritty of the simple simplicity of it all, because it's just there's just so much chaos happening, so many things moving and changing and rapid attention. You know wanting right. Everyone wants your attention, even me here on the podcast. But the point is it's like look at how we can do this simply. You know, there's a great quote from Tim Ferriss is like, if this was easy, what would it look like? And this guy is saying he's like if you can keep things simple, it will always win. And I think that's really important, not just in business, but let's apply it to health, apply it to relationships, apply it to health, apply it to relationships, apply it to furthering your lifestyle. How do we add simplicity into our life?

Number three most people just want to be seen. What you want to do is you want to speak to empathy when it comes to business, when it comes to leadership, but also anyone that you're dealing with. You're not here to be right, you're here to be real and I think this is a lot of the time is we tend to forget that, and I've done it, I've done it. We tend to forget that there's other people existing in this world. We live in this narrative where we think everything's about ourselves, when really everyone's just trying to figure it out for themselves and, you know, just survive and get through life. And that's why it's really important that most people just want to feel a part of it. They want to be validated. We want to be validated, we want to feel loved, we want to feel part of something, even if we don't admit it. There is that level of like, just feeling accepted. So when we speak with empathy, or speak to empathy, meaning it helps bring people together, right, if you're talking in a way that invites conversation, makes people feel comfortable, not in the terms of saying, telling them what they want to hear, but just being polite, being kind, right, people want to be seen, people want to be heard. So make sure you listen, make sure you let them share, but also, you know, be real at the same time. That's what I took from this, anyway.

Number four was the world doesn't owe you attention. Now, this is interesting because here. We are just talking about that. We want all that attention, but the world owes you nothing. And that's really interesting. And it is true, we tend to get stuck into this world of like. We have this entitlement understanding that we deserve entitlement, but we also deserve that we should be of value to other people. So what does it mean?

The question that they're suggesting here is what does it mean to earn trust and what does it mean to earn the room? It's interesting to say that because when you walk into a room, there's certain people that walk into a room and everyone just respects that individual. But if you walked into the room, some people might not care. But we demand that attention. Now, that comes through respect, it comes through authority, it comes through power and it comes through a presence, because they have a reputation. Now, the world doesn't owe anyone any of that, but it's only because it's well-deserved, simply because of one person's actions. Therefore, this is the response that they get from other people. You can't just expect that people are going to treat you the same way that they would treat the king. Now, I'm not saying we should all treat everyone like the king, because some of that seems a little over the top, but the king's the king. That's what it's meant to represent. So we need to be mindful that the world doesn't owe the attention to all of you, but it doesn't owe it to everyone else either. We need to go through with empathy, doing what we do, respect, love, kindness, care, being real, being protective of you. Know what we're trying to create of ourselves, and the attention we desire can come through the authority and through the consistency and through the you know, our approachable selves that we develop. Right, and it doesn't happen over. This is my interpretation of this, but this is what the guy has said, that you know, entitlement versus value, they're two different things and we need to make sure we don't blur that line. Essentially, that's what he's saying.

Rest is a skill. I agree with this. It is a big one, and trying to juggle the whole world of hustle, burnout, it's easy to get addicted to hustle and it's very easy to land in burnout. You know work-life balance and all those things. It's a big challenge, right? The moment you can rest isn't when it's convenient, it's when it's essential. And we should oh look, I struggle with this. I always put rest last, always doing things. I'm doing filming today. I'm doing planning for a meeting, filming today, I'm planning for a meeting next week. I'm doing all these different things today when really I should just be taking time off and playing video games. Right, I deserve that. But at the same time, I know what I need to do. And I also know what I want to do and I also know that there is a point in time that I say no, I just need to take some time out right Now.

Rest is different for everyone. Rest might be sitting in front of the TV and watching Netflix. Rest might be just actually taking a rest like sleep. Rest might be going for a walk. It might be just reading a book on the beach. It may be spending some time with some friends, just doing nothing. It's different for everyone, but make sure you know what rest looks like for you and do apply it and make sure you put it as a you know, a key component of your everyday life. If you don't, that's when burnout comes. All right.

The next one that he says is you can't think your way to confidence. Yeah, confidence equals doing while scared every time. Yeah, I never felt ready, and maybe that's the secret. This is it, like some people will say oh yeah, I never felt ready, and maybe that's the secret. This is it. Like some people will say, oh, you make it look so easy. I tell you, you know, there is times when it does feel easy, there's times when it does feel good and things seem to fall into place, but then there's always something else scratching at the back, thinking you know, okay, that's coming. I've got to deal with this, I've got to get on top of that Confidence. It comes through, you know, consistency of doing something, doing reps, and then it just makes it a little bit easier. So therefore, the confidence becomes natural.

You can't buy confidence. You have to earn confidence through doing, and a lot of the time, confidence is then found after doing things so many times that it's no longer scary Me driving my walkie stacker. You know, like when I first started, that it's scary, you're going to hit something. What about this? How am I going to do it? Now it's easier, right? I don't say it's easy because there's still times where it's like, oh, I'm not sure if I can do this. But you figure it out, you go slow, you learn and you get a bit more comfortable, you get a bit more confident and boom, now you've got a level of confidence to be able to do a certain thing with something right. It applies for everything. This makes complete sense and I can agree. You know you've never felt ready, and that's maybe the secret. You've just got to be able to go, get yourself to the position where you then are ready.

By doing it, most people are faking it. Ah, geez, I think it's true. A lot of us. We all want this coming back to. You know, people just want to be seen. We share highlight reels, we want to be validated. It's just a natural thing. And now I'm not saying we should be doing this, but my point is it's like we're all just trying to make it in life. Now, some of us, you know, fake it till you make it, figuring it out, and that's the same thing. We're all just trying to find our level of confidence. We're all just trying to find what that looks like. We're all trying to find our way, our version of ourselves, our comfort zone, our satisfaction, versions of ourselves, meaning where we can get to and think, ah, this is it, I'm happy with this right. And we shouldn't let someone's Instagram highlight reel keep you from starting your first draft, because it's probably a lot of it's probably BS, it's all just fluff.

People show things, people share things. I share my and document my journey. A lot of people don't like it because they don't think it's real To me. It's real To me, I live it every day. But at the same time, I'm not doing that to share what I'm doing for you, for necessarily for you, it's for me. But at the same time I do want it to inspire, I do want it to motivate and I do want it to encourage others to go pursue their own dreams. Right, and you should go after it.

The next one is routine is stranger. Sorry, routine is stronger than motivation. I think this is key because you know when things aren't going right. If you have a routine, you can fall back onto it and things will happen anyway. It's this classic statement quote I don't know, you don't rise to the level of your goals, you fall to the level of your systems. All right, you can have all the goals in the world, but if you've got no system to get there, they're not going to happen. So you know it's push come to shove. If things aren't going to play, then if you can fall back on a system, on a routine, that's where you'll still win. It's stronger than motivation.

Number nine the opposite of success isn't failure. It's not starting. Ooh, that's true. Like you know, action is the differentiator. People say they want to be successful, but there's a lot of people who ain't doing nothing. That's because they didn't start by you not starting. You're failing by you starting and then it not working out. That's true. It's not failure, it's just you're not there yet. By not starting, you are failing, because you will never, ever get to where you want to be if you do not start.

I think this is really important. Most of the success I found this is what the guy said most of the success I found was hiding behind a really bad first attempt, it's true, you know. So this is important. This is really good for me, because I've got stuff I've got to do and I'm scared to do it, but we're going to figure it out. Number 10, the big one. But we're going to figure it out. Number 10, the big one.

Social media is a bad habit, it's true. I mean, it takes our attention, it takes our time and it costs us those things. We can't get that time back, and time is the most precious thing to us. What we kind of just described today, from all these different you know different things, a lot of it comes back to time and attention. Where our attention goes, and there's a question the guy asks is what could you build if you weren't checking your phone every seven minutes? It's a good point. It's a good point.

So a couple of other things that they've asked us to then think about after doing this little reflection piece is which lesson hit hardest to you? Which one hit hardest to you? I think for me it's the opposite of success and failure. It's not starting and there's things that I've been pushing out, but we just need to do it and figure it out because we're already ahead. If we start, which one do you already know but aren't living yet? No, that one was definitely a key one. Simple wins, I think. Sometimes I overcomplicate things, but at the same time, because I want it to be right and I'm scared that it'll fail. But the same thing, if we just start, if we just do, we can figure it out.

And if you could live just one of these this week, excuse me, if you could live just one of these this week, what would it be? Oh, it'd be less social media. It's a bad addiction. That's me folks. Look, I would love to hear from you. Share it back to me. Let me know in the comments which one for you, between one and 10, was the ones which hitting you the hardest, ones that you already know but aren't living yet. And three if you could do one this week, which one would it be? If you want to continue the conversation, more than happy to do so. Otherwise, appreciate you being here. We'll be back here again next week. You have a wonderful day, cheers.