Finding Your North Star

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Yo yo yo . Welcome back to the Furrier Lifestyle podcast Conversations on Lifestyle , passions and Houses . My name's Chris , I am your host and I'm super excited to be back here having the conversation with you . Episode 138 today , and we're talking about how can you be courageous with your life , or how can you step out and be bold and take back control of your life . Now , one of the common threads that I've been speaking about across this entirety of this podcast since the beginning , especially more so in the last one year to six months , is the common thread around purpose , focus , end game and building a life that you want , aka furthering your lifestyle .

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Now we all have the same amount of time each . We all have 24 hours every day and with that we have the power to obviously make our day significant or have a significant impact on how we spend and , you know , use that time . Everyone has that opportunity . What you do of it is up to you , right , and we've got to be responsible for it . We've got to be accountable for it . But when we know what we want , like an idea , a dream or a goal , we can start to , we can start to work towards it and the time that we have can be used and leveraged much better than if we did not know what we want , or if we have an idea , or if we have a dream or if we have a goal , because we don't know what we can do to start to work towards it . Now , it's also OK that when we start on a journey to go towards where we want to be , that if we realize that maybe it isn't all that we thought or maybe it isn't where we want it to be going and that's OK , because when we're able to go down a path and realize this is not what we want , it actually redirects us to the path that we do want . Therefore , you're actually still moving forward , right ? Don't ever think that because you've you know , you've gone to university , you spent time becoming something , learning a skill or a trait , gaining knowledge , and then you go out into the workforce and then , all of a sudden , you don't want to do that job because it's not what you expected . Look , it's going to feel like there's going to be a lot of time wasted , but if anything , you've now told yourself no , this is not what I want to do , I'm going to go over here and you can probably still leverage the skills that you've acquired anyway . So it's not actually the end of the world In today's episode .

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What we're actually going to be talking about and I do apologize , I'm just going to call this out you can probably hear frogs in the background . I don't know if you can , I can . They are very , very loud . We have a dam right next to us and this time of the year the frogs are just going crazy . So that's Greg , the frog that we call , because he just goes , goes around bopping all day . Anyway , I digress because it's distracting me , so I've got to call it out .

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In today's episode , what we're going to go through are some very , very basic , yet very , very hard questions to help you set the pace for yourself to start working towards your North Star . Now , I have spoken about the North Star before . We've touched on this numerous times . We've even spoken about your end game , but that's what we're re addressing today . That's what we're revisiting today , and I've actually been able to pull together a bunch of different questions which will require you to revisit on a regular basis . Actually , if you wanted to challenge yourself and keep yourself really honest , you could actually revisit these daily , like go through . It's like a mantra almost , but you know it would be always good to reassess these and revisit these questions on a regular basis . It could be daily , it could be weekly , it could be monthly or whatever cadence for you makes sense , but it's basically here to keep yourself honest .

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Now , some of these questions , or some of the answers to these questions , may stay the same for a very , very long time , whereas sometimes they will change and they might evolve , and that's OK . There's no right or wrong answer to this . The only way that you can answer it right is by answering it . So we're going to go through this and buckle up . It's going to be a little bit of a different experience today , and I might jump in with a few different examples or some of my own anecdotes or experiences . We're going to . We're going to go through it fluidly . So buckle up , let's roll the intro and let's get into it .

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So the first question that I'm going to ask you and you might want to pause , you might want to take some time , you might want to get some pen and paper , or , if you're listening to this , you might just want to pause and think about it , right , and that's OK . This podcast might only be a 20 to 30 minute episode , but for you it might be an hour , right , and what you put into this is what you'll get out of it . So the first question that I want to ask you , and you need to ask yourself this , is what will I make happen within five years that matters more than anything , right ? So when you ask yourself that question , what is it that you want in five years ? I can't answer for you , but it could be . You want to own your house , you want to be married , you want to have kids , you want to be a certain level at your job , you want to be working for yourself , you want to be owning a business , you want to be running a business , you want to have invested , you want to be able to play the piano , you want to be able to run a marathon , you want to be able to sell your art online . I don't know . But what is it that you want in five years , and what will you make happen in five years that matters more than anything to you ? Yeah , now , with all these questions , it's going to get very , very interesting very , very soon , and I'll tell you why shortly .

Setting Personal Goals for Growth, Success

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The next question is what will I make happen within one year that matters more than anything , right , you can see we've gone from long term to somewhat shorter term , right ? And all of a sudden now things get a bit more real , because it's like it's less time , it's 365 days . What is the one thing you want to make happen this year , and it's more important than anything ? And the next question is what will I make happen within one month ? That matters more than anything . And then the last question of this is what can I do to start this day positively ? That matters more than the rest . Now we've transitioned from what will I make happen in one month to how will I start my day positively . But the question that I will also further ask for this is what can I do today that's going to get me closer to where I want to be in one month of where I want to be closer in one year ? What's going to get me closer to where I want to be in one year ? That's going to get me closer to where I want to be in five years .

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I've had conversations with people and I've bought this over up over the last couple of weeks where people tell me they want to be doing these things in a year's time or a two years time or five years time . But if you're not doing anything today that's actually working towards getting you to that point , where do you expect the difference to happen ? Like the delta , the gap in between ? Where do you expect things to just fall into place ? They're not going to fall into place . You need to be doing something .

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So the question you can ask yourself and it might be what can I do today is to start the day positively . That matters more than the rest . That might be doing the one thing that you need to get done . That's going to ensure that you can get the one thing that you want to get done in this month . To ensure that you're going to get the one thing done that you want to get done this year . To ensure that you only get the things that you want in five years time . It's a lot to take in . It's very deep , it's very overwhelming , but when you have the understanding of that and you've got the conviction with it , it makes the journey so much easier . It makes waking up and knowing what you're doing having purpose , it gives you a sense of focus and it means you're going to be happy to be doing what you're doing .

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Now we're going to move on to some other questions . What will I ensure gets done today that further develops my main craft skill , mastery , which matters more than anything else in this area ? Right , what will I ensure gets done today ? What can you do today ? What will you do today that further your further develops your main craft skill , which matters more than anything else in this area ? Again , this is going to help you get to all these other areas . So , what is the one thing ?

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So , if you wanting to train for a marathon , well , it means you're going to have to go out and do the running today , or you're going to have to go out and do the cross training today , or you're going to have to go out and you know practice doing some reps , or I don't know . Right , it depends on what it is . If you're learning an instrument , what reps are you putting in today ? You get my point and with this , you want to be specific enough to be able to choose something that gets done in its entirety , meaning maybe you're going to read 15 books of a page , or maybe you're going to draw for 30 minutes , or you're going to do a 10 minute video , or you're going to do 40 minutes of running , or you're going to do a thousand words journaling , do something very specific to ensure that you are getting in those reps that are requiring you , that are enabling you to get to where you want to be . The next question from that is when exactly will you get this done Today ? When exactly will you get this done ?

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And then , in addition to this is in addition to my craft development work , what are the three tasks that must get done today ? Now , this might actually be something else outside of . You know all those important things of what you want to be doing , where you want to be going , but you want to list them in order of priority , and it's a vice that you work through them , starting with the most difficult . I forget the I think it's Brian Tracy in . Here's a book about . You know , eat that frog and you want to . You want to do the toughest thing , the hardest thing , that requires the most effort and attention . The first thing , because once that's done , you feel like you've won the day . And the next thing start rolling through with the punches , meaning you're going to be able to snowball effect on those . So you're going to pick the three tasks that you must get done today and do them in the order of priority . Right , so now we're going to dive into something to keep you honest in helping others .

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Who can I connect with today Whose life would be improved by your doing so ? Right , so who can I connect with today whose life would be improved by you doing so ? You answered this and this this is a bit of a weird one because it sounds like , oh , you're just trying to , you know , talk to people to show that you're going to make their lives better . That's not the intention . The intention is showing a bit of , you know , gratitude , blessing , giving back , helping others , giving empathy out and helping other people . So who can you connect to today that's going to help them further their life ?

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The next question is who are three people or more or more , depending on your time that I will connect with today to generate opportunities in my life in the areas that matter the most today . A lot of the time we we talk about how I want to do this , I want to do that , and I'm a big victim of this is we . We figure we try to figure it out by ourselves , but if we just ask people and have a conversation with people that are already doing it , already done it or way ahead of us . It enables us to jump , you know , quite a few steps , to jump the mistakes , to get past some of the fluff that we don't realize how to get over , and that's why connecting with people is so important . So who are three people that you can connect with today to generate opportunities in your life in the areas that matter the most today , to get you to where you want to be in one month , where you want to be in one year , where you want to be in where you want to be in five years ? What could I do that would enrich my social life , which matters more than anything else today . And I think this one is important because there's an element of social life which isn't about going out and parting , but going out and just having that interaction , that connection with other people , and sometimes it might be just catching up with a friend for coffee , sometimes it might be going out with a group of friends , might be experiencing something with a loved one . Whatever it may be , what could I do that will enrich my social life today ?

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The next one is what will I do today that scares me , takes me out of my comfort zone , that I know will improve me and my life . This is a tough one because I feel like there's always an opportunity to do things that scare us and get us out of our comfort zones every day . But we either choose to or we choose not to . If you're out running and there's a hill ahead of you , you ask yourself the question am I going to run up this hill ? Now , if you don't ask yourself that question , there's a high chance that you're just going to walk it . But if you ask yourself am I going to run up this hill ? And you say yes , you will find this extra ability to push through that challenge and get yourself out of the comfort zone , and you want to prove to yourself that you can do it . Try it . Try it with the question will I do this , yes or no ? So what will you do to get you out outside of your comfort zone today or that scares you , to improve your life ? So the next one is what big ask will I make today ? Now , this is very broad , but essentially what we're saying here is what could you ask from someone that could lead to a huge opportunity in your life ? And you'll be surprised by what might happen .

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When I was originally doing my podcast guests and reaching out to different guests and having them on , which I need to really do again . I just haven't had the time for it , I haven't prioritized the time . But you know , reaching out and it's like , oh , it'd be cool to have one of the big names . You know someone that's you know 10 times my following , or 10 , or who has a large following , you're like , oh , but would they accept me ? Or , you know , would they , would they be willing to do it ? And I reached out to three people , two of them . I got a reply from . They all were sitting around 40 and 50,000 followers . Now they replied . Unfortunately , they were booked until a long period of time and I think that's fair game and it never did happen for other reasons , which is fine . But they responded and I got a response .

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So when we , when we don't ask , you're always going to get no , you're always never going to get the results you want . But when you do ask , it might give you insight , it might give you the opportunity , it might be more than what you expect . So ask , and the way you can do this is what is your big ask ? Which one person will you ask and who else could you ask if that person doesn't work out . Now I always think about if you've got three people and you ask three people , the same big ask hey , if you've got all three people saying yes , even better . But if you've got one out of three , that's cool . So that way you've got a higher chance of actually making it happen . But obviously understand that if you do ask three people and they also yes , is that going to impact you , because you can only pick one . So just make sure you take them into consideration so you do not waste people's time .

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We've got two more questions , guys . The next one is what will I do today that will benefit my health or state of mind ? That matters more than anything , and the reason why this is so important is because when we're working towards where we want to be going , you're running just constantly . You're always on , and it might be because you're doing two things , meaning you're working for someone else and then you're trying to build the life you want , or you are just trying to build the life you want , and there's lots of things coming on . You're responsible , you're accountable for your own life , so you need to make sure that you're doing things that is going to keep yourself healthy and your state of mind in the right place . So what will you do today that matters more than anything , that's going to benefit your state of mind and your health . Sometimes that might be just taken a day off or spending an hour going for a walk , or it might be doing some exercise or might be playing some video games , it might be just switching off , I don't know , it might be just eating . Right , you got to answer this .

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The last one is what will I do today to expand my extracurricular world , even if it is just for 10 minutes ? And I think this one is a great way to expand what we do not know into something that we could extracurricular . You know , it could be anything . It could be taking up a hobby , it could be starting a veggie garden , it could be going fishing , it could be trying skateboarding , it could be just playing video games , it could be any of those different things . But make sure you bring those things into your life on a regular basis , a constant basis , a consistent basis , even if it is for 10 minutes , to ensure that you do have that flow of balance in your life , because with all these other things we've just spoken about , all these things you've got to be doing , to prioritize for today , to prioritize for the month , to prioritize for the year , to prioritize for the next five years .

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It's a lot to take in . It's a lot , but when you have that inflow , when you have that in order , you're able to then be able to know that I know what I'm doing today and I know that if I keep doing this , it's going to get me where I want to be in 30 days and if I keep doing that , that's going to continue to get me to where I need to be going for , where I want to be in a year's time , and so on and so forth , and it will adjust . It will change because you learn more information , you get more information . Things change , challenges arise , but you're able to then pivot and adjust . And if you could document this , if you could track this for yourself , you'll be surprised of reading back of where you are from a year ago to now and looking over that one day to 30 days to 30 days to a year , from a year to five years . It will blow your mind . So that's what .

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That's what that's it today how to be courageous with your life . And I encourage you to go back and go through these points and reread them , ask yourself them . Do this . If you want to result , do it . If you don't want to result , don't do it . The big question is to you are you going to be courageous with your life ? Are you going to go through and fill out these questions , yes or no ? Appreciate you being here . If you've got any questions , comments you want to continue the conversation ? Chuck something down below here on the YouTube comments . Otherwise you can reach out to myself more than happy to continue the conversation and , yeah , if this resonated with you , send it to someone you know , share it with someone or share it to your feed and challenge others to take upon them to do this exact same little test , this little challenge to really see what they're doing , where they're going and if it actually aligns to what they think they want or where they're going . Appreciate you all . You have a wonderful day , thanks .