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Ep.58 - HARD TRUTHS we all need to face to Further Your Life | Further Your Lifestyle Podcast

April 17, 2022 Your Host: Chris Furlong Episode 58
Further Your Lifestyle
Ep.58 - HARD TRUTHS we all need to face to Further Your Life | Further Your Lifestyle Podcast
Show Notes Transcript

Over the last few months through reflection and hindsight I have been thinking a lot and have touched on a bunch of HARD TRUTHS we will all need to face as we further our life!

These do come from the ideas around asking yourself some big questions through self reflection, which I have been touching on over the last few weeks. 

Things around: 

  • If I could go back, what would I do differently? 
  • What do I know now that I wish I knew then?

Regardless, let's dive into it. 


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0:00 - Episode 58 Topic of Hard truths
4:15 - the challenge of BALANCE
8:13 - PLANNING enables direction
11:48 - the past, present and future aka the power of TIME
14:43 - the internal and external factors of HEADSPACE
16:45 - we dont know what we dont know or THINK
18:58 - MONEY doesn't grow on trees
21:37 - your CIRLCE will influence you
23:32 - the big takeaway from all this?
23:50 - think about this today (please)


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[00:00:00] Chris Furlong: Yo Yo Yo, welcome back to the further, your lifestyle podcast, conversations on lifestyle passions and hustles. My name's Chris Furlong. I am your host and I'm super excited to be back here having the conversation with you episode 58. And before we jump into it, I just want to, I just want to call out if you've been enjoying these episodes.

[00:00:17] Chris Furlong: If you've been listening for a while, if you've been enjoying the podcast, then please consider leaving a review jumping on over to Spotify or over to apple podcasts, and you can jump on. And you can leave a review or maybe you could share it with a friend or someone that you believe that these episodes or this podcast would resonate with.

[00:00:35] Chris Furlong: If you could do that, that would mean the absolute world to me. And I appreciate it in events. So today I want to chat to you about some of the, um, I guess it's. W what I'm calling the hard truths. And over the last few weeks, I have been diving down into reflecting and things that we need to be doing to be thinking differently and challenging our thinking and how to level up.

[00:00:53] Chris Furlong: And we've been touching on a lot of that, especially the 90 day reflect. And with this, there's always a lot of things that cross over and a lot of the same things that I talk about, but that's because it's relevant as you continue to move forward and trying to further your lifestyle or further your life, we need to face some of these hard truths.

[00:01:10] Chris Furlong: And that's what I want to dive into. It's interesting because I think the sooner we realize these, the sooner we can actually move forward with some ease into our lives, I'm not saying it will be easy, it would just make it a little easier. And I will also say that. Some of these will be easier to understand and comprehend when we have experienced behind them.

[00:01:29] Chris Furlong: And you know, that's with hindsight and as we progress through life, we start to realize why things were so important to go through because we can't appreciate the growth that we've come through until we've actually achieved that growth. It's a bit of a catch 22, because you need the experience. You need to go through it to understand it.

[00:01:43] Chris Furlong: But you know, we also need to be able to accept some of these hard truths, but sometimes you need to do one to get the other. You get what I'm saying, but what I will do is try and do my best to help you see, I guess, my own insight and so that you can benefit from this and I guess take the value from this.

[00:01:58] Chris Furlong: So you don't have to go through, I guess, any time wasting or figuring out these things in advance, but you can hear it here today and hopefully it will trigger something and hopefully it'll help you think a little differently. And maybe it would challenge your ways about some of these harder. Now the hard truth for this are in no particular order.

[00:02:16] Chris Furlong: It's basically things that have kind of been on my mind and things that have been resonating with me. And I believe that will make sense and be relevant for anyone that's listening. That's you. And of course they've been relevant to my own journey, to my own lessons and things that I guess I've experienced over the last year or over the last, you know, 5, 6, 7, 10 years, even, probably even longer.

[00:02:34] Chris Furlong: But I guess that become more of a realization in the later of the last. I will say the sooner that you can identify with these, the sooner you can further your lifestyle, the sooner that you can move forward. And I'm not saying that you can just do it overnight. You can't just click a finger. And it all makes sense.

[00:02:50] Chris Furlong: I think the more we start to put these things into our mind, into our Headspace to help us understand how to deal with them or making sure that we acknowledge that these things do need to be addressed. It just, it just makes it a little easier. Cause eventually you will click. And it'll all just makes so much more sense.

[00:03:05] Chris Furlong: Also these do come from ideas around asking yourself some of the big questions for self-reflection, which I'm actually being touching on. As I mentioned before, over the last couple of weeks, we've been talking about this kind of thing, and I think it's super important that I continue to address this because.

[00:03:20] Chris Furlong: The sooner, you're able to understand that by going through the process of having some time to self-reflect and reflecting back on progress, growth and things that are working and things that aren't, you can just move forward so much quicker. And I might, it might sound like that I'm beating around the Bush or going around in circles in, in trying to re-emphasize this, but it is super important.

[00:03:40] Chris Furlong: And that's why I'm trying to re-emphasize it and make sure you understand why I'm very passionate about it or why. I think it's very important that we do try and understand the. I guess they really come down to around some of those key words or key quotes or key things that people always throwing out is, you know, if I could go back, what would I do differently?

[00:03:59] Chris Furlong: But also, you know, what do I know now that I wish I knew earlier? And that's why I'm trying to have these conversations, because if you can get ahead earlier and don't have to go through. To learn it all. You will have to go through things to learn and get the experience, and then it's going to make it so much easier.

[00:04:15] Chris Furlong: All right. Let's just dive in. Let's let's stop mucking around. Let's dive into it. Number one is balance. Our balance comes in all different forms and I think we all have different areas in our life where we know we need better balance, but you know, this is one that I've always struggled with and it's changed over the years of what that looks like.

[00:04:33] Chris Furlong: And you know, the different things that are requiring more or less balance, I will say. I believe I'm much better with this in the later year, in the, in, in, you know, over the last one to two years, I feel like I've gotten better at balancing things compared to what I was doing. One to two years ago, the big key point about balance is it brings the ability to avoid burnout.

[00:04:55] Chris Furlong: And, you know, sometimes when we think of balance, naturally, we think about. I work nine to five and your work life balance, which is true, which is true. But I think if we actually just take a step back, what are some of the things that are even more important than that, which come into that work-life balance as well.

[00:05:10] Chris Furlong: But I think it is balancing, you know, a good, healthy sleep routine, such as eight hours of sleep each night, you know, eating healthy or staying in a house. Routine as well, you know, making sure you're feeding your body with the right nutrients, and I'm not here to say that you have to do this, have to do that, and you need to change what you're eating.

[00:05:27] Chris Furlong: What I'm saying is to being mindful of it and having that balance, it's a balance, right? Keeping fit, or I guess, managing your mental head space and your physical ability and just your ability to show up and be ready to rock and roll and just like get things done. And I think that comes down to motivation, having that.

[00:05:43] Chris Furlong: He's going to enable you to want to spur on and be able to push on. And you know, whether it's in your passions, whether it's a new creative field, whether it's in work or whether it's a friend's family relationships and so on and so forth at the same time, I think it's also important that we really do ask ourselves around how are we balancing our happiness.

[00:06:01] Chris Furlong: Versus, you know, our hustles and the grind of pursuing success and these ideas around what success looks like. Because a lot of the time we have these ideas of what success looks like, and we think those things are going to make us happy, which they will, but by the time you get there, you realize you're not in, you're already chasing the next thing.

[00:06:18] Chris Furlong: So making sure that. Slowing down and smelling the roses along the way and having some fun and enjoying it and being happy, making sure you're smiling in that journey. Right. And I think that's a super key thing is finding that balance. It's easier said than done. The next one is around, you know, like work, you know, work is draining.

[00:06:34] Chris Furlong: We get that. And some of us, we, we love our jobs. Some of us, we have that love, hate relationship with our jobs. Usually when you do love and you're passionate about your job or whatever you're working on or doing, we, we, we tend to. We can tend to get quite addicted to it. You know, it's just easier to bury ourselves into that, or we're always on because we're wanting to grow it.

[00:06:53] Chris Furlong: We're wanting to pursue forward and grow it into something that we're ever more proud of. I know this because I do it myself and. You know, being able to then balance that whole conversation around not feeling bad about taking some time off, whether it's reading, doing some, self-development playing some video games, taking a night off, you know, whatever it may be.

[00:07:12] Chris Furlong: This, this is really, really hard. And like, that's why it's a conversation. It's a hard truth that needs to be addressed. And. As I love the work that I do, whether it's with this podcast, whether it's through my YouTube, with my reselling business. And I'm always having my mind in the game, I'm always thinking about the week next and how am I going to level up?

[00:07:31] Chris Furlong: How do I get to this point? And I've got, you know, steps and milestones that I want to be at and things to help me keep progressing. And sometimes that takes over and I've been trying to do more and more things through the week, so I can have more and more time off in the weekend. But that starts to sound like the usual nine to five.

[00:07:46] Chris Furlong: Right. Which, which it is. And I'm not saying you can't be doing that. What I'm saying is you need to have the balance and you need to be willing to have that conversation and be receptive to actually being able to give yourself a break, give yourself some time it's a fine balance. I think that it really comes down to, in order to get.

[00:08:05] Chris Furlong: We need to grow through slowing down and being willing to step back and take some risks too. I think that that's, that's the balance there. That is the key, the hard truth. Number two is planning. And I don't want to be sitting here saying that you have to plan out your entire life. That's not what you have to do.

[00:08:21] Chris Furlong: You don't have to have it planned out. What I'm trying to say is that plans will fail things. Won't go as planned things. Won't be, as we expect. But I think having some level of north star and I have done an entire episode on this talking about, you know, what is your vision statement? What is your north star?

[00:08:36] Chris Furlong: Where is your end game? What is your end game? I think it's important to have these things in mind of knowing where you're wanting to head to. If you've got some level of a high level of. Of where you're trying to work towards, that's going to enable you to stay true to yourself. You can check yourself and make sure you're getting yourself back up on the path if you're starting to drift off.

[00:08:57] Chris Furlong: And I think it's important if you haven't listened to that episode, you can go check it out and all always. So like let's, let's, let's break it down a little bit more. I think the importance of having some level of an end game or vision statement, or, you know, where you want to be hitting AKA a north star is when you don't have a, when you don't have a plan.

[00:09:17] Chris Furlong: Or a backup plan or just something to kind of keep you rooted. I guess one day you're going to wake up and things just aren't happening and you're going to be like, where do I go next? What do I do next? How do I pivot? How do I adjust? Because you've got nothing to pivot towards. Like I said, you don't have to have it all figured out, but having something that you're working towards, like a purpose or something that you're passionate about, that's going to keep you rooted.

[00:09:40] Chris Furlong: And it's going to be something that you can kind of use as a DOP or to say that is this one I'm. Going to get me closer to where I want to be in one year, two years, five years, 10 years, 20 years. I'm not trying to overwhelm you with, you know, long, long periods in advance, but that, that kind of mindset is, is going to help you about two to four years ago.

[00:09:58] Chris Furlong: Um, I was probably, actually, when I ran around, when I turned 27, to be honest, I had set some really big goals, some ambitions and things that I wanted to achieve by this date. And some of it, I had Javed, I kicked by it, you know, I was really, really good. And some of it, I missed a big time. And when I got to that point, I had all these expectations, all these things that I wanted to do.

[00:10:17] Chris Furlong: I hadn't really thought past that. I just figured it all make sense and figure out, but I got there and I was really confused. Okay. Now what, what do I do? And, you know, I had what I wanted and I had missed things and I, you know, worked through that and got over it, but it took me a good, like six months to start to figure out, get myself into a groove.

[00:10:36] Chris Furlong: I guess, get me back onto a path towards my next direction, which eventually unfolded and led me to where I am today in taking a chance on myself, stepping away from the nine to five and pursuing these passions, dreams and goals. But I think it, it really did. It took me kind of that time and that's okay if you need to take the time to figure that out, do that.

[00:10:56] Chris Furlong: That's why we had the balance before as well, but it's important because then you start to realize that. We go into life, or we're told that you need to go do X, Y, and Z, leave school, go get a job. You know, you get a career, go get married, have kids start a family, buy a house. But some people love that. And you know, there was a lot of ambition there that I wanted to do that too.

[00:11:15] Chris Furlong: But then I started to step away and, you know, stop focusing on the money and the chase and the thrill of trying to get promoted and realized that. There's more things that I want. And if I want those, I have to be able to test those waters. I have to play that out. And that's the north star. That's where I want to be in five, 10 years is working for myself is having my own thing.

[00:11:35] Chris Furlong: That's where I needed to ask, start to ask, is this going to get me closer to that? And that's why having somewhat of a plan short-term long-term in between is going to help you grow and get to where you want to be. And it's a hard truth that we have to swallow. Number three is time. Um, and I don't want to be like a Debbie downer here and make it sound like, you know, we're all gonna do.

[00:11:57] Chris Furlong: But time, it goes quick. Right? And I love the whole past present and future perspectives around all this, because sometimes we don't realize it all until we get to, you know, later in life. And then we have hindsight and think, oh, I wish I had done this, but you know, I guess in the present right now, we're always thinking or reflecting on the past and thinking about the good times, the things that we didn't do or the regrets, or the could have the should haves or would have et cetera, et cetera, et cetera.

[00:12:24] Chris Furlong: Uh, you know, I'm laughing about it. Cause there's so many things I do think about all the time. Uh, but at the same time, all in the hindsight, in the present as well comes into play. When we think about, you know, how we could have done so much better, or what if we had invested in this or how things could have been different over those 5, 10, 15, 20 years or longer, you know, depending on how old you are.

[00:12:48] Chris Furlong: It's also interesting because on the contrary we sit here now in the present, thinking about, as I've just said, planning into the future, where do we want to be? And it all really comes down to the gap and that gap is taking action or not taking action. That's the difference is, you know, in the past we had all these ideas.

[00:13:06] Chris Furlong: We get to, he now we think, oh, I should've done this and we didn't take the action. And if we don't do that, now we're in the same stepping point or I guess turning point. We're thinking about the future. And we think, oh, I want to have all this, or I want to do that. But if we don't take action, you're not going to get there.

[00:13:23] Chris Furlong: Right. And time will just go quickly because by the time we get to the nail point, which will be, you know, another 5, 10, 20 years, whatever, we'll be looking back and thinking, well, it went through. I should've done it. And you know, there's so many sayings around all this, you know, such as the best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago or the best time to invest was 20 years ago or the next best time is today because you're not going to get the fruits.

[00:13:47] Chris Furlong: You're not going to get the rewards for another 20 years or 10 years. The point is you're going to be going through time regardless. So you're better off having something that's working some momentum while you're doing that. We need to be able to, I guess, respect the lessons within. Time periods, um, understand those learnings and understand that, you know, there is going to be ups and downs as well, and that you had to go through all those ups and downs in order to get wheat where you are today.

[00:14:13] Chris Furlong: And we're probably going to have to go through more of those to get to where we want to be as well. But we can't appreciate that until we've experienced it either. So it's a bit of a catch 22, kind of like what I alluded to at the start of this episode, but at the same time, And this is th this is why it's hard because there's so much to figure out.

[00:14:30] Chris Furlong: Um, we also have to remember to slow down, right. And try new things and keep it fresh during this time. Because if we don't have fun and coming back to that happiness part that I mentioned before, then we will, we will regret it. And this is another hard truth. Number four, the next hard truth is Headspace.

[00:14:47] Chris Furlong: And, you know, I. Life is, is big. And it's full of so many, so many different things in many big things. And I guess when we look at it, there's the external side of things, which is the stuff that's happening outside of us in, you know, in the world, outside of our control and things that don't really touch us, but just the macro environment, I guess.

[00:15:06] Chris Furlong: And then you've got the internal space, which is the things that are happening with you, things that are happening in your world, in your domain and the things that. Are also in your head, you know, your voices and the things that you're always thinking about. That's the internal side of things. So there's a lot going on.

[00:15:21] Chris Furlong: There's a lot also, you know, happening all the time outside there. And then there's all the stuff happening in your own little bubble. It is hard to hear this and it's hard to do it, but we need to spend less time in our heads because we get so worked up. We get so frustrated with things, whether it's the doubt, whether it's the questioning of our own values.

[00:15:39] Chris Furlong: And I'm talking to myself, Um, the thinking or the lack of thinking that we can on cannot do it. Um, all that fluff, you know, it just, it just, there's so many smoke and mirrors and we get so confused and we overthink thing so much. We need to get out of there. We need to break away from that mentality and.

[00:15:58] Chris Furlong: When this arises, I think the best thing that we can do, the best thing you can do to get past this is chat with someone else. You know, someone that's either a few steps ahead of you or someone that you can trust, someone that you can lean on, or someone that you can resonate with that you know, is going to be in the same.

[00:16:13] Chris Furlong: Weld of understanding in terms of, is it the same ecosystem? Is it the same environment such as if I was having struggles with leveling up in my finances, I need to be speaking to someone that's in that, in that space that knows that otherwise you're not really going to get anywhere, but just I'm an ass.

[00:16:29] Chris Furlong: These will be key. And I think also breaking through that mindset when you do that, by having these conversations, Breaking through that and your Headspace barriers, it's only going to happen if you allow it. And I think chatting with someone else, it helps break that down a lot quicker. So you just need to get out of your head.

[00:16:47] Chris Furlong: Number five is we don't know what we don't know. And AKA, you know, how we think is what we get, you know, so number five, it's the hard truth around, you know, how we think we don't know what we don't know, and we need to be willing to. Get uncomfortable. We need to be willing to go in with an open mind. We need to be willing to challenge our own thinking.

[00:17:08] Chris Furlong: We need to be willing to let others, you know, challenge our own thinking. And we can't just be a sheep and accept everything that we think we know because that's not always going to be the right answer. It might be the right answer. But I'm saying if we're not open to hearing other things, we're going to be closed off.

[00:17:24] Chris Furlong: We're going to be narrow-minded single-minded and it's going to be very hard to grow and learn. And even accept new things. Once again, it comes back to it's, it's, it's a balance and it's a challenge at the same time, but there is a great quote and I'll read it out, actually, Haruki Murakami. If you only read the books that everyone else is reading, you can only think what everyone else is thinking.

[00:17:46] Chris Furlong: Right. And it also goes along the same saying around what'd you put in is what you put out. You know, if you don't feed your mind, then your thoughts and your ability is. It's going to struggle to be able to learn new things, right? Cause it's going to be stuck with what it's now. And if you're putting in the same stuff, that's the same stuff you're going to be spitting out.

[00:18:04] Chris Furlong: And we need to, we need to be willing to challenge our mindsets, our Headspace, our thoughts, our thinking with new challenges, with new things. And if you don't, then you're not going to change. And it will always be the same if you do not open your mind. And I guess think, start to think outside of your comfort zone, your comfort zone will be small forever.

[00:18:22] Chris Furlong: You know, at the start your comfort zone would have been really. 'cause that's all you knew, but then, you know, five years later, if you're doing exactly the same thing and you haven't grown, you haven't changed your, your comfort zone is actually really, really small. And yes, I want you to be comfortable, but I want you to be comfortable in becoming a better version of yourself.

[00:18:39] Chris Furlong: And I think that's the scary part is this is hard, but this is what I'm talking about. It's a hard truth. And it's something that we need to really consider and really consider thinking about of how we can. And why we should do it because you will become a bigger and better person, not the best person in the world, but just the best version of yourself.

[00:19:00] Chris Furlong: Number six. And this is, this is a fun topic and it's, once again, it's another hard one to kind of accept and understand is, is money. And it doesn't grow on trees that are, I think we all know that, but no, it doesn't, it doesn't grow on trees and it doesn't have to be complicated. I think, you know, money can bring a lot of.

[00:19:19] Chris Furlong: Stress, it can bring a lot of negativity, but it can also bring a lot of positivity and, you know, money can't buy, I guess it can't buy happiness, but it can enable you to have a lot of options. It gives you the ability to make decisions and when it comes to money, I think there's some just basic things that we all need to really make sure we understand.

[00:19:39] Chris Furlong: Some of this might be very obvious to some of you and some of it won't be, and that's why I'm going to read it out and you need to have a budget. You need to have your financials in order. You need to educate yourself. You need to understand it. You know, you don't get taught this stuff at school, spend some time to understand it.

[00:19:54] Chris Furlong: Find people that can teach you. You know, you need to be understanding of how you pay your bills. You need to be able to pay your bills. You need to learn how to save. You need to know how to have an emergency fund. You need to learn how to invest and how to grow your wealth. It's not about just doing what everyone else is doing, but actually understand it, like educate yourself of what money can do for.

[00:20:16] Chris Furlong: And it's not about being rich with just too much money, but it's being about wealthy and having the luxury of time, the freedom to be able to do things and not stressing about money, because unfortunately that's what controls, so many things, all these things that I've just mentioned, they're all simple habits and things that I believe, you know, you, anyone can do it.

[00:20:33] Chris Furlong: And the point is you want to do it over a long period of time, because then when you do do it over a long period of time, small amounts of it, it doesn't cost you a lot of time. But if you're not doing it, it will cost you heaps. I've actually got a couple of, um, call-outs here that I, I would encourage you to go listen to.

[00:20:47] Chris Furlong: There was an episode that I did recently around mastering your financial game. Um, and that was with Paul. Yo, I really, really encourage you to go check out that episode. There's some really good insight there. And a couple of other books as well. There's the psychology of money cashflow quadrant and rich dad, poor dad.

[00:21:03] Chris Furlong: They are some really, really important books to go listen and understand. Look there's there's hundreds of books in this domain. Once again, these books, I think, and there's no water, maybe, maybe for rich dad, poor dad, then read cashflow quadrant. Um, and, but the psychology of money, I think you can read it at any point and it just helps you understand what we thought we knew about money and how we, you know, represent it in our minds might not actually be the best way of understanding it.

[00:21:27] Chris Furlong: So. It's a great way to learn and a great way to challenge yourself, to think outside the box and grow and link some of the other points I've been talking about. So that's, that's one of the hard drugs. Another hard drive is money. And the final one that I want to talk about today, the final hard truth is number seven.

[00:21:43] Chris Furlong: And that's, that's your circle, your friends and the people that you surround yourself with, and this is going to hit hard. Um, it's it's, I don't want to make these personal around that. You know, you need to cut out people from your. But I think one thing, but we need to challenge ourselves. Is the way your friends talk about others is likely how they talk about you and what will hit you harder.

[00:22:06] Chris Furlong: And, you know, we have to really dig deep and be honest about this one is, think about how you talk about your friends or people in your circle, or, you know, whether it's family members and things like that. How do you talk about them to other people? Is it uplifting or is it positive or is it. Is w what are you doing?

[00:22:22] Chris Furlong: Are you bringing them down? Because this, this is where you need to give yourself a big, hard look at it, right? And the big, the big kicker for all this is, you need to avoid all this drama, avoid the gossip and get out of that stuff, because it's not going to help you grow. If you want to grow, you need to be surrounding yourself with people that are going to be encouraging you uplifting.

[00:22:42] Chris Furlong: Helping you grow, you know, being there as a cheerleader, not someone that doesn't know what they're talking about, people that know what they're talking about, but can actually help pull you up and not just push you along because sometimes pushing that might be pushing in the wrong direction. And it comes back to, you know, what you put in is what you put out.

[00:22:59] Chris Furlong: So what you're surrounding yourself with is going to be the representation of what you're spitting back out into the world. It will define parts of you're able to find different percentages of you. So make sure you are bringing the right people into your circle. And there's plenty of people that talk about all this and what, how you should do it and why you should do it.

[00:23:16] Chris Furlong: But I think those who implements you in the right direction with positive uplift and things, to keep you honest, those are the types of people you need in your life. And those are the ones you want to be speaking into your life and encouraging you. And, you know, you're spending the most time with once again, that that's a hard truth.

[00:23:33] Chris Furlong: So that's it. Now the big takeaway from all this. You know, I had to write a lot of this down, cause it is, it is quite deep. Um, but I think that the big takeaway from all this is it's really important to actually remember as well is because, you know, and it's, it's a hard trip at all. Really does come down to this.

[00:23:51] Chris Furlong: It comes down to happiness. If you are not happy, what can you adjust? What can you do? What can you do to make a change? You know? And don't, don't think about the things that we can't control because there's things that we cannot control and those things you cannot change. Focused on what can you change around the things that you can control?

[00:24:10] Chris Furlong: You know, ask yourself if you are happy in those areas. And if you're not make a change, do something about it, right. With those hard troops, go back and relisten and see which one resonates the most with you. And see how you can put it into play because happiness is, is it's a process, right? It's something that I guess we have to work on, on a daily and regular basis, you know, continuing to check in.

[00:24:33] Chris Furlong: And it's something that if you wanted in your life, you have to make sure you're bringing it. You need to make sure that you're welcoming me and doing these sense checks and reality checks and looking at the hard truth. What's not working, what is working and you know, how, how can we start to make a difference here?

[00:24:49] Chris Furlong: So there we go. That's, that's the hard truth. So I wanted to chat about today. I really do appreciate you all tuning in listening. And if you've got any questions about this, if you want to continue the conversation, then please reach out. Let's chat some more. You can reach out on. Over at for the, your lifestyle or via Twitter at, for the, your life.

[00:25:05] Chris Furlong: Or you can hit me up with an email hello at, for the lifestyle.com. Um, I would really appreciate it. And of course I mentioned before, if you want to leave a review or share this with someone else, that would be greatly appreciated too. And if you're listening on the YouTube, you can leave a comment of something that resonated with you, the most something that you loved, or, you know, if you just want to share anything, that's, that's fine as well.

[00:25:24] Chris Furlong: Um, really do appreciate you being part of this journey. It's been an absolute honor and, and it's been a great pleasure to be able to have these continued conversations with you and I'm looking forward. Hearing, hopefully back from you of how this is helping you, you know, maybe different things that you're doing and, you know, let let's, like I said, let's continue the conversation.

[00:25:42] Chris Furlong: Anyway, hope you have a wonderful day at the time of this episode. It is Easter. So I hope you've all been having a wonderful Easter and regardless of whoever you are, wherever you are or whatever you're doing, you have a wonderful day. Geez. Now, if you didn't know, we do have the podcast merge and this is with a key focus.

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